Aggressive Children and Parents with tact

Most of the children show their anger and wrath but by growing and intellectual growth can have better control toward anger. This improvement depends on the inherited character of family, intelligence, and growth. The child until six months when he waits for food or feeding and when he doesn’t like the food or forced to do something he shows anger and rage. By the age of 15 months when the parents do not permit him to involve having meal, he becomes angry.
From 1 to 3 years old: they’re in the level of negativism and pertinacity which they can be small rulers or dictators. They hate from anyone who cut their playing or may be throw objects by anger.
From 18 months of age they start to kick when they’re upset.
From the age 2 to 2.5 they are prepared for ownership of a toy beat other children.
From 3 to 4 years old the children gradually use the language in order to release their aggressive feelings.
About the age of 6 the child mostly kicks and beats will be repeated again.
At 8 to 9 years old children generally replace argument and use the offensive words, swearing, and cursing instead of physical aggressive behaviors.
Wrath and anger display the conflict between the child’s growing ego and personality with the parents’ personality and attitude. Whenever the child finds out that he can reach to his demands by anger and attain attentions toward himself and make anxiety between the parents, he repeats his anger and wrath again. The source of aggression is anger. If anger causes to hurt others then it would be called aggression.
The aggressive child shouts, offend others by harassment intentionally, breaks the accessible objects, fights with others, dissemble the public order, attack to others, escapes from the school and dissemble the peace of class. In order to find the treatment ways for a disease or a problem at first of all, it needs to find the causes of creation and outbreaks. When the main reason has been found it is clear that the treatment can be done faster and more logical too.
In the next brochure we will talk about the reasons of aggressive behavior. Before explaining the aggressive behavior we need to say that many of these behaviors might not be known as the aggression. If a child opens the door by a kick and somebody who stands behind the door hurt by this hit then we won’t call this as aggression unless the child knows who stands behind the door. The hostile aggression is different from instrumental aggression. The instrumental aggression is a behavior for reaching to the goals which most of the aggression behaviors among the small children is from this type and this is caused by the properties. Children steal the toys from each other, push each other to play those toys which they like to play and it rarely happens to damage anyone intentionally.
The reasons of aggression is different depends on the individual character and here are some of the most important reasons of aggression:
• Hereditary causes: some of the aggressive persons heir that from parents or grandparents who show aggressive behavior and transfer that to their children. As the physical features like: eye colors, hair, height which can be transferred, either do the psychological features.
• Physical causes: the children who have physical problems such as: hypothyroidism or underrate some of glands, vision problems and anemia they are more talented for aggressive behaviors.
• Failure: the child tends to have something but there are some obstructions which prevent him to reach his goals. Human has series of demands that if we any obstruction to satisfy his real needs, then the background has been prepared for aggression.
• Learning: sometimes children see aggression from parents, friends, and movies then they imitate and learn.
• Family Turmoil: in the families who experience disputes or the family members criticize each other constantly and the environment of home is unsafe and unbalanced there is more talented background for violence whereas, the places that love, tenderness, humanity, kindness, sympathy, and helping each other exist, the children have the least problems.
• Addictive parents: man or woman who is addicted to drugs they prepare the background for aggression of others.
• Corporal punishment: this is another reason of aggression. Punishment means awakening, warning, notification or temporal exclusion and it doesn’t mean beating and humiliation.
• Paradoxical behavior of parents: the paradoxical behavior makes the background for aggressive behaviors. For example the father demands and the mother doesnot obey or vice versa. When the conflict becomes more and more among parents, house, and school the violent actions of a child will be intensified.
• Long absence of parents: fathers who don’t see their children for the long time or mothers who present at the home less than usual this is a factor for aggression among the children. Discrimination among brothers and sisters is the factor for creating aggression among the children.
The other factor of violence is when some of people don’t know how to control themselves. If the man be pious he can overcome to his rage.
Treatment Techniques of an aggressive person
First of all the child needs to have a check up to become sure that he doesn’t have any physical or glands problems. There are several ways for reduction and treatment of aggression which are mentioned as the following:

• Do not permit to the child to stabilize and get use to aggression or violent behaviors. If the child does so and can accomplish to his needs then he never compromises and feels that he can reach to his commands by aggression.
• Develop the child’s mind: while you’re anxious don’t become angry or yell at the child. Although this could be effective in the short time, this is useless in the long term. You have to stop disputation and by telling the stores or talking about the problem, try to develop the level of his knowledge and thought.
• Getting familiar with rights and tasks of other people: the child becomes familiar with his right and tasks and he shouldn’t suppose that parents and others have to tolerate his actions but the child should know how to control himself.
• Being aware of ugly affair: the child should find out that aggressive behavior is an unacceptable action and he should never be happy from destruction, aggression and wrath plus he have to apologize from others.
• Fixing failures: the problem which cause to failure should be removed or increase the child’s tolerance which at least he accepts the failures and doesn’t be aggressive and we need to expect in accordance with his power.
• Making a friendly environment: parents by friendship or hearty environment and warm relations can decrease aggression. Similarly, by showing love or goodness which exists among others can create friendly environment for individual and make them optimistic toward each other. The child should learn that by aggressive behaviors he can’t choose good friends for himself.
• Making entertainment and occupation: unemployment and not having any tasks can make a person aggressive. The child should be entertained by his favorite activities in order to have less time to think about fighting and invasion.
• Do not care about pertinacity: some of the children want to reach their goals by pertinacity and violence. So, parent s try to be indifferent and underrate the pertinacity and neglect his aggression.
• Avoid becoming angry: when the parents are angry, do not try to lose their control and never be violent in this case watching aggression makes your child violent.
• Keeping away the children from noisy environment reduce aggression we need to keep the children away as much as possible from actions or affairs which grow violence among them.
• Choosing distractors: the child who is aggressive shouldn’t release his complex upon others. It is possible when the child is angry give him a doll or broken toys in order to direct their anger to them.
• Action video games: by playing the war and military video games it is possible to control and convert aggression and suppress unacceptable excitement similarly, doing sport exercises, fresh air, kidding have effective role in aggression reduction.
• Psychological supports: instead of blaming the aggressive children we need to propitiate and ask them “why did do this?”, “why are upset?”, and “I can help you.” By this way we can make a reliable shelter which we can take coverthere.
• Punishment: sometimes the child still continues to hurt and harm others even though by operating the above strategies. In this case the children should feel a hit on their hip or back hands in order to find out what the pain is and violence and hurting have consequences of course it needs to consider that punishment should be used at the final level and pay attention to the educational purposes while punishment.