Accept your wife

An asset that in the life we need it and without having it, is difficult for us to pass it, is accepting our wife as she deserves it.
Any man has his own moral characteristics and we falsely think our wife should be in a way we like and this subject hinders it that by considering our differences, we have an opportunity to think about our friendly relationship and we have forgotten that men and women are different. Women always think to change the men and reorganize them. The woman think that his actions to change man is something loveable but, the man feels that she is under control and it is for any man intolerable. For success and intimacy in life, we should avoid of masculine treatments and respect familial and cultural differences. However, accepting individual differences is easier than rejecting his characteristics. However, the best way helping men to gain development is that we avoid of changing her in any possible way. When we achieve something we want that our partner also achieves his or her goal therefore, by a friendly mutual relationship an appropriate emotional relationship between for development of both is provided. Women should care that not to downgrade the women's sprit and he must be courageous enough whether outside the house or inside do his duties well. However; understanding man gives him freedom and there is no moment except when he feels that they perceive him because it leads to his confidence and take him away psychic pressures. The psychologists have stated that the initial demands of a man, including a warm love, can be his acceptance of his wife. Thus, we can compensate wife's feelings even if it is empty. The woman is by nature generous so, you should offer you affection by admiration in order to be motivated in life.
Woman, by providing unwanted recommendations in the life tries to change him but, the woman tries to accept her as she is. The man by provision of a woman's life style feels offense and the fact that the woman distrusts his capabilities. Generally, when the woman makes an unwanted suggestion or tries to help man is not aware that to what extend it leads to a critical atmosphere.
The men needs to be trusted by their wives so that by acceptance of the husband we internalize the feeling of husband, to be sensitive to his mental feelings so; when mental problems we tell him "can you do the best way possible; I'm sure you can" accept him as he is. However, complaining not only does not change the man's way of treatment but also, suffers you , too. While, if you avoid of complaining and adopt your treatments everything will get favorable for you so, if you don’t accept his personal features then who does? We end this point by narrating a story
An ugly old man married a woman more aged than him and they went honeymoon and returned. They asked the husband if he is satisfied with marriage. Replied yes too much! They asked why? Replied: because I respect her for his age and she respects me for my beauty.
The secret of loyalty:
from the examples or in a way subsets of wife 'acceptance' is confidentiality and loyalty towards him, siding with the husband in his presence and absence, help to boost her confidence and is avoidance of comparing him with others or his wives. The knowledgeable wife never understands the speech or private issues for relatives not tell his wife or elsewhere. Woman's loyalty is very important if not kept, no longer will the man confides in her however, this by its own will cut the string affection between the couple. According to the well stating of the Quran man and women are the cloth of each others and there is no relationship in the world, closer and more important than the couple's relationship and we are well-aware that keeping beauty and delicacy and continuity of intimacy is a guard for this valuable relationship and just by alertly treatments and well- managed reactions of a learned woman, the life founds will get fixed. A good and loyal woman in every conditions is lovely support her husband ; she does not hear about detractors and whenever the devil tries to deceives her to belittle his husband , she would remember this fact that she must become a wife higher than she is right now. Helping to increase self-confidence and confidence in wife plays an important role in life development and keeping the happiness of the man. When a man gets popular and tries to be the best in order to be beneficial for others. However, when the door of his heart is open ; he feels too much confidence in order to accept any kind of development. However, if he is given a chance to uncover his talents, he will do his bests. But, when he feels that he can not show himself, he will returned to his past selfishness. Any man tries to be hero for his own wife and the sign of his acceptance is his woman's confirm. However, the encouraging comment of the woman with comments of her husband's confirms gives man power and hope in order to make sure of her personality. Great source of love for man is love reactions of his wife to his treatments. Lets not to complain or censure our husbands and not to belittle him and not to talk with him using a sort of sardonic remarks and never do we talk about the superiority of others as a sign of belittling our husbands. Never do we compare him with one of his colleagues but , always remind him that he by obeying Islam rules as well as perseverance and trust in God will come to prosperity.
2- Communication with spouse family
Another way of proving husband is kindness and good companionship with the husband's family. Respecting the children and the family of wife and accepting them as intimidate family is a sign of accepting our wife. We should remember that the parent, after great God has the most right on our shoulders and we should not forget that obeying them and treating them regarded as the most crucial duties of the man. However; an intelligent and smart woman, humble and kind uses a good manners and intimate treatment with his husband's relatives; even if she is unsatisfied with them and feels that can not pronounces an honest love, he should provide his affection. Trying to express love and affection is an art however; you should offer your love and affection toward your mother and put it into words. You should offer your affection and love to your husband –in-law and put it into words. As Prophet says: "offering love is a sign of intelligence" therefore, if we lower our expectations of others and adopt the fact that each man has some understanding so, we can not expect everyone true and evaluated treatments. So, we will live easier and can not expect true treatments and without having mutual treatments we offer our love to others thus, the recommendations of our religion heads is on communication with the relatives and having relation with them. The prophet said: doing good and being kind to others prolongs the lifespan, develops the cities, and increases the properties. Hazrat Ali (AS) in a proclamation concerning the importance of communication and helping the relatives said: the man is never hopeless to his relative even if have had much properties and children.
Psychologists believe that suggesting affection and love to others leads to satisfaction and tranquility and whatever in the life is more loveable than tranquility and getting assurance? Then, despite the fact that we do our best to create a close relationship with the relatives of our wife, but we never hinder intimate relation of our husband with his family and do not belittle his family under any conditions.