The role of mutual respect in the growth of a family

One of moral principles and the growth factors is that family members respect to each other. If a person respects others, in fact, he or she will respect himself or herself because he or she has led others to behave him or her in this way.
Respect increases the level of the courtesy of a family and makes it safe and secure. In the Islamic narrations, there are a lot of recommendations about the necessity of mutual respect of a couple. The prophet states that men must respect men.
Imam Reza states
''إِنَّ مِنْ شَرِّ عِبَادِ اللهِ مَنْ تُکْرَهُ مَجَالَسَتُهُ لِفُحْشِه''
Imam Ali (peace be upon him) states
''أَجْمِلُوا فِی الْخِطَابِ تَسْمَعُوا جَمِیلَ الْجَوَاب''
Imam Ali (peace be upon him) states
''إِنِّی أَكْرَهُ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَكُونُوا سَبَّابِینَ وَلَكِنَّكُمْ لَوْ وَصَفْتُمْ أَعْمَالَهُمْ وَذَكَرْتُمْ حَالَهُمْ كَانَ أَصْوَبَ فِی الْقَوْلِ وَأَبْلَغَ فِی الْعُذْرِ''
Quran states
لَا إِكْرَاهَ فِی الدِّینِ ۖ قَد تَّبَیَّنَ الرُّشْدُ مِنَ الْغَیِّ ۚ فَمَن یَكْفُرْ بِالطَّاغُوتِ وَیُؤْمِن بِاللَّهِ فَقَدِ اسْتَمْسَكَ بِالْعُرْوَةِ الْوُثْقَىٰ لَا انفِصَامَ لَهَا ۗ وَاللَّهُ سَمِیعٌ عَلِیمٌ
Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things.
وَإِذَا لَقُوا الَّذِینَ آمَنُوا قَالُوا آمَنَّا وَإِذَا خَلَوْا إِلَىٰ شَیَاطِینِهِمْ قَالُوا إِنَّا مَعَكُمْ إِنَّمَا نَحْنُ مُسْتَهْزِئُونَ
When they meet those who believe, they say: "We believe;" but when they are alone with their evil ones, they say: "We are really with you: We (were) only jesting''.
أَوْ كَالَّذِی مَرَّ عَلَىٰ قَرْیَةٍ وَهِیَ خَاوِیَةٌ عَلَىٰ عُرُوشِهَا قَالَ أَنَّىٰ یُحْیِی هَٰذِهِ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهَا ۖ فَأَمَاتَهُ اللَّهُ مِائَةَ عَامٍ ثُمَّ بَعَثَهُ ۖ قَالَ كَمْ لَبِثْتَ ۖ قَالَ لَبِثْتُ یَوْمًا أَوْ بَعْضَ یَوْمٍ ۖ قَالَ بَل لَّبِثْتَ مِائَةَ عَامٍ فَانظُرْ إِلَىٰ طَعَامِكَ وَشَرَابِكَ لَمْ یَتَسَنَّهْ ۖ وَانظُرْ إِلَىٰ حِمَارِكَ وَلِنَجْعَلَكَ آیَةً لِّلنَّاسِ ۖ وَانظُرْ إِلَى الْعِظَامِ كَیْفَ نُنشِزُهَا ثُمَّ نَكْسُوهَا لَحْمًا ۚ فَلَمَّا تَبَیَّنَ لَهُ قَالَ أَعْلَمُ أَنَّ اللَّهَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَیْءٍ قَدِیرٌ
Or (take) the similitude of one who passed by a hamlet, all in ruins to its roofs. He said: "Oh! how shall Allah bring it (ever) to life, after (this) its death?" but Allah caused him to die for a hundred years, then raised him up (again). He said: "How long didst thou tarry (thus)?" He said: (Perhaps) a day or part of a day." He said: "Nay, thou hast tarried thus a hundred years; but look at thy food and thy drink; they show no signs of age; and look at thy donkey: And that We may make of thee a sign unto the people, Look further at the bones, how We bring them together and clothe them with flesh." When this was shown clearly to him, he said: "I know that Allah hath power over all things.
أَلَمْ تَرَ إِلَى الْمَلَإِ مِن بَنِی إِسْرَائِیلَ مِن بَعْدِ مُوسَىٰ إِذْ قَالُوا لِنَبِیٍّ لَّهُمُ ابْعَثْ لَنَا مَلِكًا نُّقَاتِلْ فِی سَبِیلِ اللَّهِ ۖ قَالَ هَلْ عَسَیْتُمْ إِن كُتِبَ عَلَیْكُمُ الْقِتَالُ أَلَّا تُقَاتِلُوا ۖ قَالُوا وَمَا لَنَا أَلَّا نُقَاتِلَ فِی سَبِیلِ اللَّهِ وَقَدْ أُخْرِجْنَا مِن دِیَارِنَا وَأَبْنَائِنَا ۖ فَلَمَّا كُتِبَ عَلَیْهِمُ الْقِتَالُ تَوَلَّوْا إِلَّا قَلِیلًا مِّنْهُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَلِیمٌ بِالظَّالِمِینَ
Hast thou not Turned thy vision to the Chiefs of the Children of Israel after (the time of) Moses? they said to a prophet (That was) among them: "Appoint for us a king, that we May fight in the cause of Allah." He said: "Is it not possible, if ye were commanded to fight, that that ye will not fight?" They said: "How could we refuse to fight in the cause of Allah, seeing that we were turned out of our homes and our families?" but when they were commanded to fight, they turned back, except a small band among them. But Allah Has full knowledge of those who do wrong.
وَالْوَالِدَاتُ یُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَیْنِ كَامِلَیْنِ ۖ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَن یُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ ۚ وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ لَا تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوْلُودٌ لَّهُ بِوَلَدِهِ ۚ وَعَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَٰلِكَ ۗ فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالًا عَن تَرَاضٍ مِّنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْهِمَا ۗ وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمْ أَن تَسْتَرْضِعُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْكُمْ إِذَا سَلَّمْتُم مَّا آتَیْتُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۗ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِیرٌ
The mothers shall give such to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall be Treated unfairly on account of her child. Nor father on account of his child, an heir shall be chargeable in the same way. If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.
اللَّهُ یَسْتَهْزِئُ بِهِمْ وَیَمُدُّهُمْ فِی طُغْیَانِهِمْ یَعْمَهُونَ
Allah will throw back their mockery on them, and give them rope in their trespasses; so they will wander like blind ones (To and fro).
One of the features of hypocrites is that they sneer at each other and God attributes it to themselves;
God wants the disciples of prophets not to ridicule at each other, not to call each other with ugly titles and not to find faults in each other;
یَا أَیُّهَا الَّذِینَ آمَنُوا لَا یَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن یَكُونُوا خَیْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِّن نِّسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَن یَكُنَّ خَیْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِیمَانِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ یَتُبْ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ
O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.
Quran states that when prophets were sent to guide human, they were ridiculed by some persons;
یَا حَسْرَةً عَلَى الْعِبَادِ ۚ مَا یَأْتِیهِم مِّن رَّسُولٍ إِلَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
Ah! Alas for (My) Servants! There comes not a messenger to them but they mock him.
وَلَقَدِ اسْتُهْزِئَ بِرُسُلٍ مِّن قَبْلِكَ فَحَاقَ بِالَّذِینَ سَخِرُوا مِنْهُم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
Mocked were (many) messengers before thee; but their scoffers were hemmed in by the thing that they mocked.
In the different verses of Quran, the word '' surrounding'' is seen;
وَلَئِنْ أَخَّرْنَا عَنْهُمُ الْعَذَابَ إِلَىٰ أُمَّةٍ مَّعْدُودَةٍ لَّیَقُولُنَّ مَا یَحْبِسُهُ ۗ أَلَا یَوْمَ یَأْتِیهِمْ لَیْسَ مَصْرُوفًا عَنْهُمْ وَحَاقَ بِهِم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
If We delay the penalty for them for a definite term, they are sure to say, "What keeps it back?" Ah! On the day it (actually) reaches them, nothing will turn it away from them, and they will be completely encircled by that which they used to mock at.
وَلَقَدِ اسْتُهْزِئَ بِرُسُلٍ مِّن قَبْلِكَ فَحَاقَ بِالَّذِینَ سَخِرُوا مِنْهُم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
Mocked were (many) messenger before thee; But their scoffers were hemmed in by the thing that they mocked.
وَبَدَا لَهُمْ سَیِّئَاتُ مَا كَسَبُوا وَحَاقَ بِهِم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
For the evils of their Deeds will confront them, and they will be (completely) encircled by that which they used to mock at.
فَلَمَّا جَاءَتْهُمْ رُسُلُهُم بِالْبَیِّنَاتِ فَرِحُوا بِمَا عِندَهُم مِّنَ الْعِلْمِ وَحَاقَ بِهِم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
For when their messengers came to them with Clear Signs, they exulted in such knowledge (and skill) as they had; but that very (Wrath) at which they were wont to scoff hemmed them in.
فَأَصَابَهُمْ سَیِّئَاتُ مَا عَمِلُوا وَحَاقَ بِهِم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
But the evil results of their deeds overtook them, and that very (Wrath) at which they had scoffed hemmed them in.
وَلَقَدْ مَكَّنَّاهُمْ فِیمَا إِن مَّكَّنَّاكُمْ فِیهِ وَجَعَلْنَا لَهُمْ سَمْعًا وَأَبْصَارًا وَأَفْئِدَةً فَمَا أَغْنَىٰ عَنْهُمْ سَمْعُهُمْ وَلَا أَبْصَارُهُمْ وَلَا أَفْئِدَتُهُم مِّن شَیْءٍ إِذْ كَانُوا یَجْحَدُونَ بِآیَاتِ اللَّهِ وَحَاقَ بِهِم مَّا كَانُوا بِهِ یَسْتَهْزِئُونَ
And We had firmly established them in a (prosperity and) power which We have not given to you (ye Quraish!) and We had endowed them with (faculties of) hearing, seeing, heart and intellect: but of no profit to them were their (faculties of) hearing, sight, and heart and intellect, when they went on rejecting the Signs of Allah; and they were (completely) encircled by that which they used to mock at.

Imam Reza states that if a person finds fault in others, it will come back himself or herself
مَنْ عَیَّرَ مُؤْمِناً بَشَیْءٍ لَمْ یَمُتْ حَتَّی یَرْکَبَه
Quran states
مَن كَانَ یُرِیدُ الْعِزَّةَ فَلِلَّهِ الْعِزَّةُ جَمِیعًا ۚ إِلَیْهِ یَصْعَدُ الْكَلِمُ الطَّیِّبُ وَالْعَمَلُ الصَّالِحُ یَرْفَعُهُ ۚ وَالَّذِینَ یَمْكُرُونَ السَّیِّئَاتِ لَهُمْ عَذَابٌ شَدِیدٌ ۖ وَمَكْرُ أُولَٰئِكَ هُوَ یَبُورُ
If any do seek for glory and power,- to Allah belong all glory and power. To Him mount up (all) Words of Purity: It is He Who exalts each Deed of Righteousness. Those that lay Plots of Evil,- for them is a Penalty terrible; and the plotting of such will be void (of result).
God introduces pure persons in three attributes: for giving other in pain and comfort, suppressing anger and ignoring the faults of others as Quran states
الَّذِینَ یُنفِقُونَ فِی السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِینَ الْغَیْظَ وَالْعَافِینَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ یُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِینَ
Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good.
If a person has good features, he or she will be the beloved person of God as Quran states
وَسَارِعُوا إِلَىٰ مَغْفِرَةٍ مِّن رَّبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ عَرْضُهَا السَّمَاوَاتُ وَالْأَرْضُ أُعِدَّتْ لِلْمُتَّقِینَ
Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous.
الَّذِینَ یُنفِقُونَ فِی السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِینَ الْغَیْظَ وَالْعَافِینَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ یُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِینَ
Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good.
یَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الشَّهْرِ الْحَرَامِ قِتَالٍ فِیهِ ۖ قُلْ قِتَالٌ فِیهِ كَبِیرٌ ۖ وَصَدٌّ عَن سَبِیلِ اللَّهِ وَكُفْرٌ بِهِ وَالْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ وَإِخْرَاجُ أَهْلِهِ مِنْهُ أَكْبَرُ عِندَ اللَّهِ ۚ وَالْفِتْنَةُ أَكْبَرُ مِنَ الْقَتْلِ ۗ وَلَا یَزَالُونَ یُقَاتِلُونَكُمْ حَتَّىٰ یَرُدُّوكُمْ عَن دِینِكُمْ إِنِ اسْتَطَاعُوا ۚ وَمَن یَرْتَدِدْ مِنكُمْ عَن دِینِهِ فَیَمُتْ وَهُوَ كَافِرٌ فَأُولَٰئِكَ حَبِطَتْ أَعْمَالُهُمْ فِی الدُّنْیَا وَالْآخِرَةِ ۖ وَأُولَٰئِكَ أَصْحَابُ النَّارِ ۖ هُمْ فِیهَا خَالِدُونَ
They ask thee concerning fighting in the Prohibited Month. Say: "Fighting therein is a grave (offence); but graver is it in the sight of Allah to prevent access to the path of Allah, to deny Him, to prevent access to the Sacred Mosque, and drive out its members." Tumult and oppression are worse than slaughter. Nor will they cease fighting you until they turn you back from your faith if they can. And if any of you Turn back from their faith and die in unbelief, their works will bear no fruit in this life and in the Hereafter; they will be companions of the Fire and will abide therein.
یَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْخَمْرِ وَالْمَیْسِرِ ۖ قُلْ فِیهِمَا إِثْمٌ كَبِیرٌ وَمَنَافِعُ لِلنَّاسِ وَإِثْمُهُمَا أَكْبَرُ مِن نَّفْعِهِمَا ۗ وَیَسْأَلُونَكَ مَاذَا یُنفِقُونَ قُلِ الْعَفْوَ ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ یُبَیِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمُ الْآیَاتِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَفَكَّرُونَ
They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say: "In them is great sin, and some profit, for men; but the sin is greater than the profit." They ask thee how much they are to spend; Say: "What is beyond your needs." Thus doth Allah Make clear to you His Signs: In order that ye may consider''.