Why do women escape wearing Hijab? (1)

Understanding socio-cultural factors
Semi-nudity is a way for some people to enter into the world non- gender. Because when the female body is semi- covered, the piety and dignity of man is being subject to caprice. The staring put aside the curtain out of men's mental and desire and declares weak aspects of man to the woman. On the other hand, the woman by man's stare obtains some information of her characteristics and its role in stimulating the emotions of the men and better recognizes the turbulent world of men as well as the mysterious way of misleading them. On the other hand, most of the time the reason for glaring is not feeling of having weak character but, the person feels a controlled dense force inside himself that does not know how to get ride of it and let the others know about it.
The woman's both is semi-covered and is covered for attraction and seducing is a powerful source of attraction and stimulating sexual desires and it seldom occurs that the women to be safe his looks. Indeed, what secrets are laid in woman's manifestations and what passes in illusions and the men's minds what does the woman know about the waves of Look? These are questions that are responded in this section.
The Secret for Hijabless of women and daughters
The treatments and motivations of women are as mysterious and astonishing as his creation. Even if the woman is aimless in her life, feminine movements would not be without purpose and de-motivated. So, it would be simple-minded if he or she thinks the intention behind hjabless is disbelief of weakening in Hijab. On the other hand, because the factors and motivations their behavior is not fully recognized so, for its treatment, an accurate and effortful attempt is not made and it is expected that an attempt will be curative for all of their illnesses. Thus, we follow the reason for "neglect of girls and women for lack of coverage" in three words as follow
First: Understanding the cultural and ideological factors
The second: factor analysis and psychological motivations
Third: recognition of social factors
In every speech, it has been attempted that the analysis is accompanied with the solutions and showing without treatment is being avoided.
Little awareness
After eight years of research regarding the women and the girls' inattentiveness toward girls and women to Hijab it was concluded that the main reason behind this phenomenon is ignorance and lack of enough knowledge.
So, some of the results of this survey is as follow
a) Among those inattentive women to Hijab, there were some girls of religious families, that their families were not well-justified about their upbringing. Their mothers stated that despite all their belief in Hijab, they failed to provide convincing reasons to their daughters about wearing Hijab.
b) A number of women and girls considered their incomplete coverage quite sufficient
c) A group disregarded their Hijab because they did not consider it as factor for happiness and success and considered its role something neutral. However; for this group, not only the veil, but rather moral aspects are not the cause for happiness or progress.
Weakness and wavering in faith
The origin for semi-nudity and disregard for Hijab despite ignorance is laziness and faltering in beliefs. As long as the person does not believe in God, His knowledge and also the last Day, it would be very difficult to create a stable treatment in him regarding this issue. Still, some developed and modern men has not heard the advices of Muhammad (PBUH) that why he emphasized more and more on the women's rights as well as her position. The prophet knew that women due to their psychological subtlety, passion, love and faith are respected and if not having a complete sense of love, to satisfy their love-seeking sense, will seek unfair practices and will put the others in troubles sufferings. If woman does not find in the home environment her spiritual glory, will seek it elsewhere and does whatever behavior that would make her easier find the goal will be more justifiable to her. When a woman is not considered significant aspect is obliged to keep the remaining part, everything in its power supply. In the case when some divine aspects of the woman are disregarded, necessarily, to keep just that remaining part, will offer what she has. In that case, some aspects of his being will remain unknown for her as well as her community. In some parts of celestial leaders, it was emphasized that the father has duty to respect her daughters, give affection to them and give their gifts just to them first and then the boys. Then, pronounce his passion to his beloved and says that love her. This pronouncing of love and satisfaction makes the woman hopeful to life and satisfies the sense of respect and refrain it from smartness in the presence of the strangers. It is not devoid of reason that it was said there is just one misery and tragedy for woman and it is when she feels no one loves her. On the other hand, sometimes the discrimination between the children and comparing their characteristics together, stimulate their sense of arrogance. The failed person tries that by making up and smartness in the community, retaliate her contempt. In fact, the secret for all uncovering of the ladies is some sorts of comparisons and disloyalties that they have observed in the home. Perhaps you might have seen that if you didn’t stare at partly-covered ladies and without looking you respect them, and they will cover themselves soon. Because, they feel that they are facing a person who paying attention to appearances has not neglected them of paying attention to divine aspects of the life so, facing such a person, she does not see herself in need of smartness and love.
Non-accepted patterns
The raining patterns are known as effective factors on the individual's upbringing. Both pure and effortful boys and girls who remind their treatments as result of a pattern have been full of compatibility and perfection. On the other hand, some patterns have training role and cause some people escape moral values. Therefore, what is related here, is the presence of ladies of what Islam wanted a woman as if considered Hijab as role disregarded of the fact that just the woman's believe is not just related to Hijab.
The enemies have often tried to create fastened ties between Hijab and religion. So, they have summarized all women's religion in her wearing of Hijab. Then, by this gift, a huge invasion to fight Hijab in the Islamic countries broke out and because they took Hijab from Muslim woman as if they took all her religion. Then, the Muslim woman missed her pray, her fast and whatever has to the name of religion. While in many countries, the Muslim woman was either Hijabless or was known as religious man. Thus, inattentiveness to Hijab should never ends in irreligion or implicated to its concept. So, there are some other characteristics that without them, we can not consider a woman or the believed Muslim. For most of women, Hijab and Chador is known as the easiest sign of becoming Muslim and considers Hijab along with other characteristics as sign of her Muslimism. In the methods of Imams, we read that when a woman mistreats with his own family, his place will be heaven whether wears Hijab or not ; some one that people is not safe of his hand and her language will not be Muslim man or woman, Hijabless or someone who wears Hijab. What a pity! That a woman who wears veil, but is dirty and disheveled, grumpy and abusive! Sinister and intriguing! Ignorant or jealous! Hijab is repulsive when the other gravities are not penetrated inside her. If a woman amid all the good traits satisfied only Islamic dress ,would never be able to have other women wear hijab and Islam, but also make everyone hate religion of Islam . When a lady wearing the Islamic dress, she should know that her responsibility has increased.
Some veiled girls and women believe that should not gently speak to the stranger, in dealing with men avoids of the correct social etiquette and even devoid of common greetings with acquaintances. Regardeless of the fact that such an abnormal behavior that is sometimes beyond the limits of the law in the eyes of many people is coercive and violent. When dealing with such individuals people feel that their existence has occupied hatred and violence. Response to Greetings with sobriety does not mean a sense of violence. People in order to respect and asking about ones health and happiness say hello to each other and not to see frown and anger, so, Almighty God commands to His slaves. When you are saluted, you do it in a better way, or return the same in response. We have read in the narrations that Imam Ali (PBUH) did not say hello to young women, (7) but we have never heard that the Imam responses anyone in anger and frown .
The sense of limitation, violence and strictness
This feeling that is defined as adherence to a sort of coverage limits the man and takes his power of choice and authority and not only is it common among young girls and young women but also is common among adolescent women, as well. The man, if favors a person or phenomenon and believes its blessings, he will not doubt in keeping his connection with, and will tolerate any bitterness but, because has no decision to accept or does not believe in its blessing; he would consider the least difficulty to himself as well as the beloved as the sort of damage. The fact that "the youth period is a kind of madness" that has a scientific and psychological background. So, Physical growth and mental developments, creates a wave of uncompromising in that and takes away their actions of moderation and regards the spirit of rebellion and for them. Many of holiness may collapse in their minds and abandoned what's considered important and forget them. However, they should consider Privacy and traditions as superstition and disregarding it as a sign of the intellectual and social development and, they should sometimes love to rise against the orders. Because, if considers the other's advices beneficial – considers it a sort of charitable action and will give themselves the chance to disobey that although in this action he or she gets into trouble and is rejected . The young man prefers the independence of idea by "independence" with losses. He sometimes in some extreme and pathological manners after showing proof of his identity follows showing his independent character and to prove this takes advantage of any position and facilities. The era of adolescence and youth must be considered the era of continuation and assurance of thinking independence. If a person considers the type of wearing and social behavior appropriate to his dignity and character, since she assumes that this is a sort of command or limitation of free will , before they try to evaluate good or desired outcomes may seek to escape and may resort to reverse reactions . Therefore, struggling for independence thinking and maturing personality causes her when asking to wear the body and by choosing semi-covered clothes gain her own thinking ability. So, the mother by doing this will not hurt the children and wants to believe that and make others deem that has ages and herself decides about her going out and her way of dress. This period of testing may be short-lived but, is considered a necessary era to the young girls though it may be the beginning for another diversion that modification of future behavior makes it more difficult. The phenomenon of "self-independence of thought ' may be revealed in girls in their dressing and in boys manifested in doing discourteous and immoral behaviors. Often, in this age, the girls practice some unaccepted affairs without regarding for their likely consequence. They are cognizant about their misbehavior but as if they have failed to test seek their independence in a less harmful setting. Unfortunately, in this era, doing a series of behaviors that favored them a taste of independence causes them to deviate. So, using that sample and by indicating opposite sex friends, they want to indicate that they are old and having social power of attraction, unaware of the fact that this is the beginning for their deviation and their vulnerability. In addition to the above, tendency to modernity and being disregard for current traditional customs of the elders, causing strange and awkward behavior of young people. What the community likes, is manifested showy for them though it is laughable for them. In fact, it is becoming popularity with peers and sounding important in the eyes of the others. According to what mentioned above, it must be admitted that when the violence and strictness of the parents is without logical justification and based on attitude, is one of the factors that contrary to expectations, surrenders the spirit of the stubbornness and arrogance of the children to compromise. To educate girls in order to make them practice the Islamic dress the emotional and logical step taken and only censure, blame and criticism is not the solution. The Important point is that the young girls should not be imposed that "the girl is a bound, limited and dominated being and on the contrary, the son is a free, powerful and domineering being." This thinking and conflicting definition of male and female rather makes the girl to try retaliation and rebel forces because, they do not hear logical analysis and convincing justification, for such a freedom and commitment, by parents. Therefore outside the house - away from the parents' view – they practice some behaviors that are more resemble to true freedom than its reality.
Summary
Because, the young generations are in the stage of gaining personality, testing the will and choosing and the spirit of rebellion and breaking tradition is strong in him tries to conduct a behavior whereby is not being accused to submission and changes into a modernist, and law-breaker and being recognized as a sacred and independent beings. In the meantime the girls comparing with the boys sees themselves more limited and fails to make this distinction, by starting the adolescent period to common customs - disregards the dictated imagination and by that sample follows a strange method and considers any religious obligation arduous and bitter. This mode also exists in women, but psychological analysis of their behavior differs. Among less committed women to Hijab, some people are found who have not forgotten the strictness and prejudice of their parents to dress.
And on the other hand, they do not remember if their family members have taught them about the benefits of wearing the headscarf and the harmful effects of semi- coverage. Sometimes unrelated strictness of family members particularly after marriage in everyday life makes the girl breaks the limiting principles - though consider it to her advantage in order to taste freedom.
Prevention and Treatment
In prevention of socio - abnormal behaviors the girls who are as a result of such factors, some points deserves follow-up.
1- First of all we should know the reason for this behavior of the girl or woman is feeling of emotional restraint and violence or seeing the spirit of independence and modernization at risk. In these situations, the person must be sympathized with and understood that under any condition Observing correct social criteria in his relations with others, is not mean limitation of freedom and choice. However, the health of human life in every field demands ethical and social principles. So, disregard to these principals neither shows indifference to the cultural growth nor a sign of independence and the personality. It must be understood that usually this time is fleeting, but if the person have had interaction with some others that are more prone to moral corruptions, may be her short-term independence seeking may gets more prolonged and gains a new independence for the individual. However, this short period should not be extended with steep steps and destruction, and strengthen them. Usually, when a person is forced to confront stubborn, does not consider his own interests and to bear the cost of any damage, insists on his wrong method. Sometimes, the parent rigor in the girls' marriage, causes their disregard for coverage and in this way, they confine their parents to consent to their marriage.
3- Of the most difficult tasks of the parents and educators is providing a correct interpretation of men and women. Sometimes, the parents by their behavior provide some praises about male and female that is incompatible with religious principles. They should recognize men and women complement to each other, not against each other the difference between the freedom of sons and daughters at home and outside it, must be well- rationalized. Unreasonable and unjustifiable difference makes the girls move fast if they see they are free and day by day make themselves similar to men. It is better for the girls to know that practicing some principles by them does not mean they are lower than the boys or they are downgraded. As result, it is the vulnerability of girl that makes her practice further disciplinary principles. Because the girls and women typically do not seek freedom to spread obscenity and promiscuity, if the trainers pretend that they follow these treatments to expand corruption, unwillingly they are suggested that as if they follow the corruption so, they depart purity day by day.
Self-alienation
In industrial sociology, cultural …, has been regarded as an introduction to political affiliation so, till the spiritual values of a nation is not reducing to her; she would not deceived by the alien puppet values so that opposite is true.
Since the West has threw off moral spirituality and even humanity, and forcibly more respected science and industry thereby compensate for its cultural vacuum. The West, in this replacement, quite wisely developed and could deceive a large number of people of other cultures. Later on, the Easters are fascinated by science technology and introductions of the West and what they had, regarded as nothing and the West was too developed in their eyes. How teachable is this statement when says: when the world eyes at a group of people, also borrows them the beneficiaries of others to them and when it bakes to them, takes their beneficiaries , too.
Then, we, Eastern, started phenomenon of comparison, discovering and testing and we assumed in a way that the Western by having genius, knowledge and expertise all they have are deserves praising and what we have is full of censure. Therefore; this self-alienation gradually turned out the East like the birds' infants that is waiting for the mother to put the food into her mouth. By passing of the time, this self-alienation extracted a general criterion so, what he believes in is tied with fallen back so what they believe in it is related to development. After this step, sampling was started so, in the West, some girls found that without appropriate coverage obtained political and economical degrees and here ladies by best coverage in the lowest social rank. This self-alienation, gradually involved advertisements and cultural plans and so far in the Movies and television and the press the veiled women were depicted often as home or school servant, soothsayer, sorcery ,slovenly and rude characters while, the Hijabless as polite , courteous and highly cultured. That fallacy - that Western developed by violating religious morality and believing in these principles has held us back – deceived some inexperienced people like Reza Shah Pahlavi. He wrote in some letters to Mahmood Jam that unveiling occurred in his government:
How do these veils can be removed! Therefore; it is for two years that these thoughts have occupied my mind. Since I went to Turkey and I saw their wives have discarded the veil and men work side by side the men, I hated all the veiled women. The short answer to these fallacies is what pushed them forward to abandon moral principles and religious criteria was not such as the veil however; the obstacle for our development was not considering religious criterion like Hijab. Nevertheless, if some issues are practiced by the people of each country, their nation will develop though it is not adhered to the religious and moral criteria. And the one, who does not focus on those issues, will fall behind though they are adhered to morality and religion.